Navigating the Return to Work: Finding Balance in the Chaos
Going back to work after maternity leave has been hard. Like, really hard. I knew it would be an adjustment, but I underestimated how emotional and overwhelming it would feel. Trying to juggle work, home, and everything in between has been a messy, exhausting learning curve.
The hardest part? Figuring out a new routine that works for everyone. Some days, I feel like I’m crushing it. Other days, it’s cereal for dinner, and I’m just glad everyone made it through the day. But along the way, I’ve found a few things that have helped, and I want to share them in case they might help you too.
1. Talking It Out: Communication is Key
Before I even went back to work, my husband and I sat down to hash out how this was going to work. Who’s doing daycare drop-offs? What about pick-ups? And what happens when someone is sick? We didn’t have all the answers right away, but talking it out helped us feel more like a team.
I also had an honest conversation with my boss about easing back in. I was nervous, but it turns out, people are more understanding than we give them credit for.
What’s helped me: We do a quick Sunday night check-in to plan the week. It keeps us on the same page and helps avoid last-minute chaos.
2. Finding Peace at 5 a.m.
This has been the game-changer for me. Getting up at 5 a.m. before the kids are awake has become my sacred time. It’s quiet. The house is still. And it’s mine.
Most mornings, I work out (nothing fancy—just something to get my body moving), plan my day, and throw dinner in the crockpot. Some days, I just sit with my coffee and enjoy a few minutes of calm before the storm. By the time the kids are up, I feel like I’ve already accomplished so much, and I’m more patient and present with them.
If you’re thinking about trying this: Start small. Wake up 15 minutes earlier than usual and build from there. Use the time for something that fills your cup, whether it’s exercise, journaling, or just sitting in the quiet.
3. Letting Go of Perfection
This one is hard for me, but I’m learning. I’ve realized I can’t do it all, and I definitely can’t do it all perfectly. Some days we’re running late. Some days I lean on takeout or skip folding the laundry. And that’s okay.
What matters is that we’re doing our best. My kids are loved, and I’m showing up for them in the ways that matter most.
What’s helped me: I focus on one or two “must-dos” each day and let the rest go. It’s not perfect, but it’s working.
4. Making Time for Me (Even Just 10 Minutes)
I didn’t realize how much I was neglecting myself until I started carving out a little time just for me. Some days it’s a quick walk outside. Other days, it’s lighting a candle and journaling for 10 minutes. It doesn’t have to be a lot, but it makes a world of difference in how I feel.
If this feels impossible: Start small. Even five minutes of quiet breathing in your car before heading into work can help.
5. Relying on My People
One of the hardest things for me has been asking for help. But I’ve learned that I don’t have to do this alone. Whether it’s leaning on a friend, hiring a sitter, or calling my mom for advice, having a village makes all the difference.
My reminder to you: It’s okay to ask for help. You don’t have to do it all, and no one expects you to.
6. Celebrating the Little Wins
This season has taught me to celebrate everything—even the small stuff. The first time I got everyone out the door on time? Win. Making it through a workday without crying? Huge win.
These little victories remind me that I’m doing okay, even when it feels hard.
What I do: At the end of each day, I take a minute to reflect on one thing that went well. It helps me focus on the positives, even on tough days.
This season of life is hard, but it’s also filled with so much growth and love. If you’re in the same boat, just know you’re not alone. We’re all figuring it out as we go, and it’s okay if it’s messy.
I’d love to hear from you—how are you navigating work, family, and everything in between? Share your wins, struggles, or tips in the comments. Let’s figure this out together. 💛
